“Take up space”, “Get the bag”, “Be loud about your wins.” If you’re an African woman today, you’ve probably heard these words more times than you can count. At work, at school, on social media, and even in conversations with friends. And while they sound empowering, no one really tells you what it actually looks like to take up space. Because the truth is, taking up space is not always loud. Sometimes, it is quiet or unseen. We often imagine “taking up space” as the big moments of landing the dream job, buying a car, building a house, or making a major announcement.
But what about the moments that don’t trend? What
about the small, consistent, often invisible decisions that shape who you are
becoming? What no one tells you is this: taking up space often looks like
showing up when no one is clapping. It looks like posting consistently as you
build your brand, even when the numbers are not growing yet, it looks like
applying for opportunities even after rejection emails. It looks like investing
in yourself, even when it feels “too small” to celebrate. It looks like choosing
growth even when it’s uncomfortable and lonely. It looks like refusing to
shrink.
Because many African women were not raised to take up
space, we were taught to be always quiet and accommodating. And while those values are not wrong, they
often come with an unspoken expectation to
not be too much. So we second-guess ourselves, downplay achievements, wait
for permission, or hesitate to show up fully. But taking up space is not about becoming loud
for the sake of it. It is applying, even when you are unsure, speaking even
when your voice shakes, showing up even when you feel behind, and moving on even
when it feels like no one is watching.
And maybe this is what we need to understand: Your
“small” wins are not small, they are foundations and evidence of your growth.
At Inspire Her Afrika, we see this every day: women
showing up quietly, consistently, courageously. Women choosing growth, even
when it is not glamorous.
And one thing is clear: no woman truly takes up space
alone. There is power in guidance, and being surrounded by women who see you,
challenge you, and support you. That is why mentorship matters. Because
sometimes, taking up space is easier when someone reminds you that you deserve
to be there.
This is your gentle reminder as we step into Q2; you
don’t have to wait for the “big moment” to take up space. What will you do
differently to take up space this quarter? Whatever it is, do it.
If you’re ready to grow with intention, gain clarity,
and be supported on your journey, the Inspire Her Afrika Mentorship Program is
here for you.
And if you need guidance right now, Notes From Your
Big Sisters is a great place to start, a collection of honest lessons and
practical wisdom from women who have walked this path.
https://selar.com/notes_from_your_big_sisters
Tell us in the comments:
What is one way you will take up space in Q2?
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